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Can this marriage be saved? Lag B'omer edition

Friday, 26 April, 2013 - 1:18 pm

This Sunday, Lag B’omer, is the Yahrtzeit of the Talmudic sage and father of Kabbala, Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai. The following story is told about Rashbi (as he is known).

A couple once approached Rabbi Shimon for advice. They’d been happily married for ten years but were not blessed with children. It was suggested that they get divorced and seek other marriage partners. They now sought the opinion of the great sage. Rabbi Shimon gave them the strangest advice as he replied, “Just as you married amid great celebration, so too the divorce should be amid great celebration.”

They set the date for their divorce party, which was scheduled to take place the night before the divorce proceedings. At the party wine was flowing. The husband got up to toast his wife and wish her well. He declared how wonderful their life was together and how he regretted the circumstances that were causing the need for divorce. He then announced that as token of his love for his wife he offered her to take something home with her to her father’s house – the most precious object of her choosing.

As the night wore on the wine took its toll and the husband drifted off into an inebriated slumber. The wife then instructed her servants to carry him to her father’s house. When he awoke in the morning he was shocked to find himself in his father-in-law’s home with his wife right there in the room. He expressed his surprise to which she replied, “You told me to select the most precious object from your house. I could not think of anything more precious than you.”

They went back to Rabbi Shimon and he quoted the verse, “with women’s wisdom she built her home.” He added, “Now that you have both displayed your love and dedication to each other, Hashem should fulfill your desire to have a child.” Needless to say they lived happily ever after.

The lesson is obvious. Enough said!

Mazal tov to Talor and Avi Fine upon the upshernish of their son Yisrael Aryeh Leib. Mazel tov to the grandparents, Uzzi and Rivkah Kehaty and the whole family.

Shabbat Shalom and happy Lag B’omer
Rabbi Mendel Rivkin

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